tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post4209458927015272256..comments2024-03-21T20:12:34.460-07:00Comments on Emmy Mom--One Day at a Time: Why We Should Let Our Kids FailEmmyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-9060971902815157392013-10-30T20:18:33.418-07:002013-10-30T20:18:33.418-07:00You are so right! Failure is part of life, and it...You are so right! Failure is part of life, and it makes us stronger. We have to learn to deal with it. I hate that the gov't is taking over so many things b/c it won't let people make their own decisions (good or bad.) It does all people a disservice to shield them from hardship and disappointment. You go, girl!Marianne (Mare) Baker Ballhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03663143060069193124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-40345738216452591052013-10-10T16:35:37.656-07:002013-10-10T16:35:37.656-07:00Yep exactly! Yep exactly! Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-84227016532829192972013-10-10T16:35:23.070-07:002013-10-10T16:35:23.070-07:00Yes! I think too many parents want to live throug...Yes! I think too many parents want to live through their kids and want to shelter them and protect them from everything and want them to always win, that is not life! Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-84992358259348443132013-10-10T16:32:23.345-07:002013-10-10T16:32:23.345-07:00Yes!! They need to learn before they are in the r...Yes!! They need to learn before they are in the real world as that is not how it operates so if they don't learn as kids when are they going to learn? Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-67601737053336082862013-10-10T16:29:28.452-07:002013-10-10T16:29:28.452-07:00Yes! The real world does not have participation t...Yes! The real world does not have participation trophies Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-80703769790448996322013-10-10T16:29:06.820-07:002013-10-10T16:29:06.820-07:00Yes that coach was so awesome and I am so glad the...Yes that coach was so awesome and I am so glad they community supported him in itEmmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-13449381937031713822013-10-10T16:28:45.127-07:002013-10-10T16:28:45.127-07:00Yes! I want them to be able to make those mistake...Yes! I want them to be able to make those mistakes and fail while I am still here to help them through it and before the consequences are something long lasting. Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-37942119660515251192013-10-10T16:21:26.660-07:002013-10-10T16:21:26.660-07:00Yes! so well said, we need to let them fail and w...Yes! so well said, we need to let them fail and we cannot do it all for them; they need to learn. Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-87185351566060014332013-10-10T16:20:44.801-07:002013-10-10T16:20:44.801-07:00Yes, I was so disturbed when I read about the New ...Yes, I was so disturbed when I read about the New York stuff, so awful Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-30223680278214724852013-10-10T16:20:08.529-07:002013-10-10T16:20:08.529-07:00Yes and there are definitely way too many entitled...Yes and there are definitely way too many entitled people today and it is not going to get better anytime soon if this kind of thing keeps happeningEmmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-41322654746027924722013-10-10T16:19:14.893-07:002013-10-10T16:19:14.893-07:00Yes! Yes! Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-16079169805712069112013-10-10T16:19:06.929-07:002013-10-10T16:19:06.929-07:00Yes, when they are young that is when they need to...Yes, when they are young that is when they need to learn as otherwise the real world is going to be very harsh place. Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-15077338137692425332013-10-10T16:18:06.691-07:002013-10-10T16:18:06.691-07:00Yes if it were my kids they would be down there to...Yes if it were my kids they would be down there to fix things up for sure and then there would have been a whole lot more consequences for being at a party like that in the first place. Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-49590429551304581672013-10-10T15:59:53.259-07:002013-10-10T15:59:53.259-07:00Oh yes! My kids have also spent their money on du...Oh yes! My kids have also spent their money on dumb cheap things or when they were saving for something then bought something else too soon; but yes when the cheap little toy breaks, when they no longer have the money for the thing they really wanted then they learn. It is hard and I try and guide them and remind them, but ultimately I let them decide as they need to learnEmmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-55058238211437542502013-10-10T15:58:35.938-07:002013-10-10T15:58:35.938-07:00I know! I mean really what do they think they are...I know! I mean really what do they think they are doing for their children? Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-15329784775527525192013-10-09T13:49:25.882-07:002013-10-09T13:49:25.882-07:00Yes exactly!! You said it perfectly and yes we t...Yes exactly!! You said it perfectly and yes we truly do protect them by letting them learn and by failing not by always helping them "win"Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-52989648167854629942013-10-09T09:23:38.903-07:002013-10-09T09:23:38.903-07:00I think in order to prepare our kids for the real ...I think in order to prepare our kids for the real world, in which failure does happen on a regular basis, we have to let them fail. It's part of learning and growing up. And the great thing is, we can do so in a controlled enviornment. We can let them fail when we know what the repercussions are and how they will be received. This "everyone wins" mentality just drives me crazy!!Kmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05008496338777404036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-44754196568507564432013-10-08T12:31:59.553-07:002013-10-08T12:31:59.553-07:00I know! I could not believe it! The parents shou...I know! I could not believe it! The parents should be glad he was going to let their kids off easy!<br />Emmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675419215475635276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-81458946899461644932013-10-07T19:09:56.070-07:002013-10-07T19:09:56.070-07:00Someone needs to have those parents in NY heads ex...Someone needs to have those parents in NY heads examined. Seriously, especially when those students incriminated themselves.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05620304858463524343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-77288200922819915362013-10-03T18:22:34.231-07:002013-10-03T18:22:34.231-07:00Thank you so much for posting this. Not only do I ...Thank you so much for posting this. Not only do I agree but I feel discriminated for thinkung this way <br />Most parents we know say how hard we are on our kids. We are very living and caring but when it comes to their poor choices we believe in learning via consequences as most times it is a result of not listening or following what we teach them to. <br />This needs to begin at an early age. Today I am responsible for making of my kids great citizens of the world who will thrive in their lives but give back to their communities. The only way to get their is via respect tolerance understanding and education and definitively not by handing them everything. Tatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03407731697838995216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-34203181996388722382013-10-02T05:15:04.933-07:002013-10-02T05:15:04.933-07:00Failing is a part of life. Too many kids,like your...Failing is a part of life. Too many kids,like your example,are raised thinking somone is always going to bail them out. Then they hit the real world and ohhhh wait that's not how life works. I would rather teach my kids responsibility than learning to take the easy way out or blame others. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15538209383663342983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-69163395867872648782013-10-01T17:53:34.654-07:002013-10-01T17:53:34.654-07:00I completely agree. I have seen parents get so ups...I completely agree. I have seen parents get so upset over things that do not even matter in the grand scheme of things all so their kid can be the winner or on the winning team. I never got any participation trophies when I played, or really stood there, softball. It seems to always be someone else's fault as well. Kids aren't held accountable and parents don't think anything of it. Sonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15897037441021642059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-32624656182154428962013-10-01T10:29:33.450-07:002013-10-01T10:29:33.450-07:00I totally, totally agree with everything you said ...I totally, totally agree with everything you said in this post!!! Not a fan of participation awards...our society is all about feelings these days and so worried about someone being left out. Newsflash that's not how the real world works so why are you going to set them up that way??? And yes kids need to know that their consequences when they do wrong especially when we are in such a virtual world and once it is out there...it's out there.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09376889141903161184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-58804376867591872132013-10-01T05:15:06.306-07:002013-10-01T05:15:06.306-07:00Yes, yes, yes! I am not a fan of participation tro...Yes, yes, yes! I am not a fan of participation trophies, I just don't like teaching kids that all you have to do is show up. I worry about how they will handle loss when they finally experience it.Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15906650088996229896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1434047468114822475.post-9385585806218049722013-09-30T21:32:35.235-07:002013-09-30T21:32:35.235-07:00I was so proud of that coach when I read that news...I was so proud of that coach when I read that news story! It is so hard to let my kids fail, but I am with you. I have to step back and let them get hurt and it is hard!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01610100693262021554noreply@blogger.com