Tuesday, November 12, 2013

The Potty Miracle

"I'm just not sure what to do."

I have found myself saying that a lot lately.  I have done it before, twice in fact, but as I explained the details to friends they were left scratching their heads unsure what to tell me.  "I've done it several times before too, but I have no idea what to tell you" was often their response to me.

There are some things in motherhood that can just leave you feeling totally inadequate, totally unsure of what to do.  Totally questioning your ability, your patience.... leave you questioning what you have gotten yourself into.

Potty training.

Oh how I hate you.

He would just sit in wet underwear, seemingly unaware or just totally unconcerned by the fact that he is wet.  This is what I was dealing with.  So I decided to hold off for a while... but how long could I wait?

Ryder turned three in May... he is 3 1/2.  

My friends were all supportive and great, 'he will get it', 'don't worry he probably just isn't ready'.... but I felt it, a totally self imposed pressure for him to be potty trained.

The last package of his diapers were getting used up.  I told him when they were all gone, no more diapers.

So we began.  He was happy to go sit on the potty, but nothing would come.  He would come and sit again on the potty... but nothing would come.   Then he would pee all over the floor.

I was setting the timer, taking him into the bathroom all day long.. but no success, only peeing on the toilet once a day at best.  He was more than happy to try it just was not happening.  Do you know how hard it is to get anything done during a day when it is broken up in 20 minute segments?

But I was not going to give up.

Last Thursday when he first woke up I took him to the bathroom, and he did it!  We danced and cheered and I let him choose a piece of candy from my bag of candy.  I even braved keeping him in underwear for school drop off.  He stayed dry and it just clicked.  That entire day he only had one accident and went on the toilet a bunch of times.
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Since then he has only had about one accident a day (including one that was a big mess in his underwear that literally clogged the toilet).  He still needs me to remind him to take a potty break, has not once initiated it on his own, but there is hope!  There is light at the end of the tunnel!

Potty training- I got this.

20 comments:

  1. We waited with Jack until he was 3.5. I was nervous about it....and my aunt gave me some good advice....."I don't know a single adult that isn't potty trained. It will happen." :)

    Well done, mama!

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    1. Yes! So true! I had thought that myself but still at times was wondering how it was going to happen

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  2. Yay! He's totally going to get the hang of it! So awesome and so relieving too! Ethan was 3.5 too. Some kids just take longer and it drives mama crazy, but works out eventually. So happy to hear you're over the hump!

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    1. Yes, Lucas was really about that age too, so I wasn't too too worried, but just last week it just felt like he had no clue and it was never going to happen and then boom, magic!

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  3. YAY!!! Sometimes something just clicks and they get it. It sounds like it's smooth sailing from here on out.

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    1. That is my hope too! fingers crossed!

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  4. Nice! I hope I have great success...Emmy is totally wanting to train but she's so little. Not 2 just yet. Praying i have great sucess like you.

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    1. Thank you! If Emmy is saying she wants to, I say go with it! Alex potty trained much earlier than either of my boys because she wanted to and it was so much easier.

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  5. Yes there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Potty training is one of the bigger battles we face. *sigh* Soon!

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    1. Yes! I am so glad he made the jump he did, fingers crossed it just keeps getting better and easier

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  6. The inevitability of potty training makes me break out in a cold sweat. I dread it. I would be happy to keep him in diapers forever. Seriously. That's not going to mess him up or anything now is it...LOL. I'm glad your son is having some success!! It gives me hope.

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    1. Yes, I definitely was not in any rush as I knew he wouldn’t always be in diapers but I figured it was finally time to bite the bullet

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  7. You totally got this! This is progress! Potty training was frustrating for me, too. I did the every 20-minute timer thing for three days before it clicked with Lex. Even after she got it down during the day, it was still a struggle at night. But when they finally get it, it's such a relief!

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    1. Yes, it is so hard to get anything done when your day is broken up into 20 minute segments, was driving me crazy!! Night time was a long process for Lucas even after he was fully trained during the day too

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    1. Yes! I am so happy it clicked, I was seriously worried that it was going to be a forever long process.

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  9. Yay Ryder!

    Potty training my oldest was a snap. My youngest? It took a year, two bladder infections, and a lot of frustration to potty train her...and in the end, a 16 year old girl who worked at the daycare did in a week what we couldn't do in a year!

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    1. Oh no! That sounds awful and would not be fun. You know that daycare worker might have got lucky as he might have just decided he was ready then :)

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  10. You know what can help, when he has to go but nothing is coming out? Run the faucet. Sometimes the sound of water helps! Works for my little guy and our elimination communication. He signs he has to go, but when I out him on the potty nothing comes out, so I run the faucet and presto! :-)

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    1. And yay for the big progress you've made so far!!

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