Friday, September 12, 2014

Friday 5

Friday 5 Time! (#Friday5)  Come share 5 Thoughts and 5 Pictures to end the week. Easy way to tell about those little things that don't need a post of their own.

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5 Thoughts

1.This week I delivered the gallery to the clients of my latest newborn shoot.  They loved the pictures.  I asked how they found me, as I am always curious, and it was just a straight up google search for a newborn photographer that led her to my photography site.  That made me pretty dang happy.

2. My kids love their pajamas.  They will often get home from school or church and ask if we are going anywhere, if the answer is no, they immediately change into their pajamas.

3. Ryder had a play date this week with his little girl friend. Her mom had some doctors appointments so we were watching her even into the hours when Lucas and Alex were home from school. As soon as Alex realized there was another girl in the house and another girl that had only brothers, she as in heaven, taking over Ryder's playdate.  They had a tea party, a fashion show and played with My Little Ponies.  Ryder took it all pretty well.

4. I knew it would happen, I am surprised it didn't happen sooner.  So far this year everyday I have been dressed for school drop off-- this week, nope. (see below)

5. Yesterday Ryder brought his blankie for show and tell at preschool.  I totally love that he is innocent enough to not think anything of bringing his blankie to school.  They grow up so fast.

5 Pictures
Great night at the temple then out to dinner with friends from church

No where to go- all in their pajamas

Alex taking over Ryder's play date

Pajamas for school drop off

A few of my favorites from my recent newborn shoot 

What is your Friday 5 this week?

Thursday, September 11, 2014

Apple, U2 and 9-11

Yesterday while watching the announcement about the new iPhone, it was exciting to see U2 perform.  It was made even sweeter when their new album was free to download that day in honor of the announcement.  It made me think back many years ago, it was my birthday.  Eric told me he had a surprise for me but we had to hurry.  He made me close my eyes, took me out the car than drove somewhere.

I had no idea where we were going as I was being a good girl and not peeking.  We parked and he had me hop on his back and carried me for what seemed like a very long way.  After I bit I could tell by the light and sound that we had entered a building.  We went down some stairs and he sat me down in a chair and told me I could open my eyes.

We were in a computer lab on BYU's campus where we were both students at the time.  I wondered what in the world we were doing there.  He told me that my birthday present was tickets to the U2 concert but we had to hurry and buy them from someone online.  I was ecstatic!

As I thought back to this memory, I couldn't help but laugh at how much things have changed.  We had a computer in our apartment but didn't have Internet, buying things on-line was really a pretty new thing.

In some ways things were a lot more simple, it was just Eric and I in our little one bedroom apartment.

The same apartment that just a month before I sat glued to the couch, unable to take my eyes off the news that kept replaying the Twin Towers collapsing.  It was unimaginable, unthinkable.  How did this happen? Why did this happen?

There was no twitter, no Facebook, not really even many new sites on-line.... so there I sat, starring at the T.V.  Nothing new was really being said, just a lot of the same speculations over and over, yet I couldn't turn it off.  I couldn't believe what had happened.

I will never forget that day.   As the world changes, as technology advances at blinding speed, some things should never change.

The American pride and honor and our willingness to fight and defend our country should never change.  As our country seems to be changing, even changing into something that is forgetting what this country was founded on- we cannot forget.  We cannot forget this day, how it made us feel, how it united us, how it helped us remember everything good that this country stands for.  And we need to fight, fight with our vote, fight with our voice, fight by teaching our children to work hard and be self sufficient not relying on the the government or handouts.

We cannot forget.

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Why I Won't Let My Kids Have Sleepovers

I remember my first sleepover.  It was with my good friend who lived across the street. I remember being so excited, packing up my bag and walking across the street.  We had a great time playing and before we knew it, it was time to get ready for bed.  I changed into my pajamas, brushed my teeth and then started crying.  I am not sure why I started crying, the thought of going to sleep without saying goodnight to my mom, just the fact that I was sleeping in a different bed....

  I do remember I called my mom but I can't remember if I stayed or not.  While my mind vividly remembers the fear, I don't remember the resolution.

I did get more brave after that and had many fun sleepovers over the years.

Now today as a parent we have a rule, no sleepovers.
Now that might seem hypocritical or extreme, especially after the many sleepovers I had growing up.

The trouble is the world is a different place now.  Yes, most people are good kind people, but sadly there are those who are not.  Not only is there the possibility of an assault but with the Internet and technology the things that can be easily viewed in a home is vastly different.  The things some families find okay, violent video games, R rated movies, vulgar language; are things we do not find okay.

Now, I will admit, if I knew a family really well and knew their values and beliefs I would probably be okay with a sleepover, but how do you say yes to one family but no to an other?   Besides, how much do you ever really know a family?  What if an older sibling has a friend over that causes problems? What if one of the friends causes problems?  At first you my be vigilant about checking to make sure everything will be monitored, that all in the home are safe, but how quickly would you slip into complacency and not be so vigilant?  Also statistics don't lie and most kids or people that are assaulted are assaulted by someone they know.

Alex has already been asked by a friend to have a sleepover, but she knows our rules (only sleepovers with certain cousins) and so told her friend she could not.  As they get older, I am more than willing to let them stay at a friends house late, but I will always come pick them up.  If the parents know I will be picking up my child that night, then I think something like what recently happened in Minnesota where the father drugged a 10-year-old girl , by slipping things into her pop so he could molest her in the night, would be way less likely to happen; as they knew I would be there soon to get my child.

This might be seem rigid or extreme, but when it comes to my kids safety there are certain things that just do not seem worth the risk.

What are your thoughts about sleepovers?

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Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Good Peer Pressure To Stop Bullying

This last Sunday I taught my son's Primary class (Sunday School).  I was happy to sub as they are a good group of kids.  A group of 9 and 10 years old who are kind, considerate and even made sure the games we played at the end of class were fair.  There is one lone girl in the class and all of the boys are kind and polite to her.
   I taught about Rehoboam, the son of King Solomon, and how when he became king, he gave into the peer pressure of his peers, following their advice, ultimately leading to the division of the tribes of Israel.   I talked about how peer pressure can be used for both good and bad.  Tried to help them realize that they can be the one to take the lead, to help lead others to good and kindness, to lead others to playing fair and doing right.  They can use their influence for good.
  In a world of instant gratification, of changing morals and everyone wanting to get ahead and be the best, it will not be an easy journey.
  But they can be the voice of good, if they are only taught, taught who they are, taught the worth of all human beings, taught that not only should they never tease or bully but they can the stop the teasing and bullying around them with their influence of good.
   I absolutely love this video about bullying, and while it is a little long, I think it is so important to watch and to share.  I wish they would share it in schools everywhere.

Have you ever had an experience with a bully?

Friday, September 5, 2014

Friday 5: Football, Parties and Other Stuff

Friday 5 Time!  The perfect way to end the week by sharing 5 Thoughts and 5 pictures from the week.  This is perfect for those little things you want to remember/share but don't need a post of their own.

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1. It's Football season!  I love college football, especially my BYU Cougars.  We started off the season by going to a friends house for a football party.  It was a ton of fun and we won, which of course makes it even more fun.  I did feel a little funny as most of the women were in the other room talking and I was with all of the guys actually watching the game.  I really do love watching it.

2. My kids only buy lunches a couple of days a week, the other days I pack (see my school lunch ideas here and here).  I must admit I love they days they buy.  They only buy certain days as there are some meals they do not like. I went to the district website and printed Septembers meal calendar.  I went through with each kid and highlighted what days they want to buy.  This week they both wanted to buy the pulled pork sliders on Wednesday.  Alex would be buying again on Friday with the Mac and Cheese, but Lucas said he did not want it as it was a gross plastic mac and cheese.  Wednesday he came home from school and told me it was the Mac and Cheese, they had changed it with no notice and so he pretty much had only milk for lunch.  I was pretty dang ticked off needless to say.

3.  I love my kids, but they definitely know how to drive me crazy at times.  Tuesday was particularly bad and I was ready to lose it.  Lucas and Alex wrote me a sweet note saying they were sorry I was having a bad day and that they loved me.  It was just what I needed to snap back into a normal sane mommy.

4. This weekend I also got to see my bestie Lourie a.k.a. CA Girl!  We celebrated her birthday a couple of days early.  It always is so much fun getting together.

5. On Labor day we decided to check out the Aquarium of the Pacific.  The family season pass price was just barely more than it would cost us to go one time, so we went ahead and got family passes. We were glad we did, as didn't come close to seeing everything and the kids loved it.  Lucas and Alex especially loved touching the sharks, Ryder just wouldn't dare.

5 Pictures
Lourie and I-with a kind of blurry selfie
Touching the sharks
No touching this guy though! Yikes! 
I really need to remember to take my glasses off when I  take a selfie, they always go crooked

What made your Friday 5 this week?