Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Why Serving Can Heal

Something is coming, something is going to change, something just doesn't feel right.  Anxiety racked my mind and body, I just felt unsettled, on the edge like something was going to happen.  I couldn't pin point when it started or even what triggered it.  Maybe it was looking at floor plans of homes we could never afford, or the fact that every new month is a new record length of time we have stayed in one place, so it just feels like it is time for a change.  No matter what I did though, I just felt on edge.

What could I do to get my peace back?  What could I do to realize that everything was okay?

The answer came in a simple way, in only about 20 minutes of time.

The peace came when I served.

In my church there is a visiting teaching program, where two women from church are paired to visit and look out for the women they are assigned to.  I have had the same visiting teaching companion since I first moved into this area.  She is another young mom like me, in pretty similar stage of life, many people often ask if we are sisters.  She and I had been assigned some other young moms, who it was easy to visit as they were also our friends.

Earlier this year we were assigned a new sister, someone who had just moved into the ward who was in a very different stage of life.  At first I wondered why had we been assigned to her, it seemed like they would have wanted to assign someone in a similar stage in life, someone that could be a great friend for her.

But we accepted the assignment and before we even had a chance to get a first visit in, we heard she was sick.  Cancer that should have claimed her life many years ago had returned.  I immediately volunteered to bring her dinner, admittedly making a nicer dinner than I often do for my own family.

She and her husband were so appreciative.  I texted her occasionally to see if there was anything else she needed.

Last week we went to visit her again, this time under far worse circumstances, as her days are numbered.  Before we went in, my companion and I bowed our heads and prayed that we would know what to say, how to bring at least a little peace and happiness at this time.  Both of us felt inadequate, as what can you say in a moment like this.

As we visited with this sweet sister, her home was filled with such a sweet spirit and I had no doubt that our Father in Heaven had heard our prayers and guided us what to say.  I knew and felt how much Heavenly Father loved her and I felt that love too.   This sweet sister whom I had only known a few months, I loved her.

After our visit I dropped my companion off at her house.  On my drive home I just relished in the peace and happiness I felt.  All the anxiety, the unease... it was gone.  I felt at peace.  Suddenly everything I had was more than good enough, life felt wonderful and in that moment life was its own kind of perfect.  The trivial things, the worldly concerns and worries did not matter.

Even in the face of death and hardships, there can be peace as there is a plan.  A true plan of happiness as we are all beloved daughters and sons of a loving Heavenly Father.  I was only able to really remember this, really feel this as I served.
It is through service to others, putting others first,  seeing and feeling that person as our Father in Heaven does, that is the way to peace.  That is the way to heal our troubled hearts.  Just give.

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26 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing such truth about life.

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  2. This is a beautiful post, thank you for sharing, and for serving.

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    1. You’re welcome and thank you :)

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  3. You have such a caring heart. xo

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  4. That was beautiful and I absolutely believe that :D

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  5. The gift of time is truly a blessing to ourselves and to others.

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    1. Yes, I need to remember this with my kids more too as it gets easy to not really give them as much time as I should

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  6. That was so powerful, Emily. We are kindred spirits you and I!!! It is SO true, that when we are able to stretch outside of ourselves, there is a blessing waiting there. I absolutely understand this. Sometimes it takes taking those faithful steps to find a new birth of hope and healing and abundant love in Him- through others' lives we minister to!!
    I am now your new fan!! :) :) :)

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    1. Thank you so so much! Your comment truly made me smile and made my day. Yes, it always does so much good and brings so much peace reaching out to others and to try and to stop thinking of myself so much, as that just doesn’t do any good.

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  7. What a fabulous post. Thank you for serving. It's a wonderful thing.

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    1. Thank you so much. And it almost feels selfish but I would happily keep serving to be able to feel that peace

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  8. Love this so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. Thank you! It really is amazing how it was able to change my whole feelings and peace, from something that really was so easy but also so important

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  9. Such a beautiful post! Thank you for sharing with us

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  10. Isn't it amazing how so often the best gift we an receive...is to give? Lovely post.

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    1. Yep, so very true. It really is the times I forget about myself and try to help others that i am the happiest and things seem to work out the best.

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  11. I have found that sometimes we are given women to visit not because they need us but because we need them. What a powerful experience that must have been. Funny how it is so easy to get wrapped up in our own little lives and we forget the powerful healing that comes from service. So glad you found the peace you were looking for. My heart goes out to that sister!

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    1. Yes, you know that probably truly was the case in this situation. My heart does too.

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  12. You are such an inspirational person...thanks for sharing this Emmy!

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    1. Awe thank you! That made my day.

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  13. It really is the ultimate change of perspective - to just look outward. There are always people who have less, are suffering more, etc. There is always something we can do to improve another's circumstance if we just look around. For me, it's so easy to get self-absorbed!

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    1. Yes, so so easy to get caught up in my world and my problems, which just make them seem 1 million times worse than they are. Looking outward can make my problems often disappear.

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