We had spent the morning running errands, most of the things were for his upcoming birthday so he wasn't really complaining. We needed to go grocery shopping still but lunch time was approaching. We were on the other side of town so decided we might as well stop at In and Out for some lunch. An animal style cheeseburger was sounding really good right then.
We finished our shopping then made it to In and Out and ordered our food. Ryder told me about the stickers they gave him while we waited for our food. I heard my phone beep indicating I had a text message. I quickly pulled it out and replied to the message saying I would be able to make the upcoming girl's night. I opened up Facebook and quickly scrolled through, seeing if there was anything new.
They called our number, so I dropped my phone into my purse so I could get our food.
We sat and ate, occasionally talking. Ryder asked me what some different words said, we talked about how he was going to be four, and just enjoyed our meal.
At that moment everything felt just right. I finished my food and rather than immediately grabbing my phone, like I too often do, I just sat and watched Ryder eat, encouraging him to actually eat more of his sandwich instead of only french fries.
We finished our food and started cleaning our table.
"Excuse me, can I say something?" a rather gruff voice asked from the table next to us.
"Sure" I said trying to smile pleasantly.
"I just wanted to say it is really nice to see a mom just sitting there having lunch with her son and not on the phone. It is a good thing."
"Thank you." I said sincerely.
I felt good. I felt a little proud even...... then a little guilty, as I remembered when I was answering texts and checking Facebook before our food came, before that man sat at the table next to us.
I shook off that guilt and instead decided to feel that joy of that moment, not just the joy of the unexpected praise from a stranger but the joy and peace I felt from just sitting there enjoying lunch with my son, being truly present in the moment. I want to remember that feeling, as I want to have an urge, a desire, a hunger even for that feeling, as it is good and it is what really matters most.
Those moments, being there, really being there.
Sometimes we all just need to get off our phones.
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