I try to never criticize my kids in front of them. Yes, I will talk with them, all of the time, about why their actions aren't right or good. But when my parents call to talk, I try not to tell them all of the bad things or trouble my kids are having, at least not when the kids are around. I feel that if they hear me saying, oh Lucas had a red day at school, he stuck his tongue out and was getting too physical; I have no idea what to do with him....well attention is attention good or bad. Instead I try and praise the kids for the good they do and tell them that is who they are.
Last night we got to go to Chuck-e-cheese. After Lucas red day-which occurred for the reasons stated, we decided he needed some more motivation to help him remember to do good at school. We told him that if he got 5 green days in a row (his class has cards for each student, green-good, yellow-warning, etc.) that we would be able to go to Chuck-e-cheese.
While there celebrating Lucas was playing ski ball. He put in five tokens so he could play several games in a row. A little kid, probably about two, came up and tried to take one of his balls. So what did Lucas do? He used one of his tokens and put it into the ski ball next to him so the boy could play. When we were eating our pizza Eric told me what occurred. And what did Lucas say? "yes, I did that because I am just being who I am"
Yes Lucas, with your heart of gold-remember that is who you are.
And well sorry as I brag some more. But Ryder rolled over from his belly to his back six times yesterday! Enjoy this cute video of his first smiles and rolling.
And don't worry I am sure my kids will do something embarrassing or mean that knocks me off my high horse. But hey have to enjoy it when those times are going good.