Friday, February 12, 2010

The V-Day that Changed it All

So did you see my title? Are you waiting for some romantic story of how my husband proposed to me or something? Well, you aren't going to read it here, he actually proposed on ground hogs day, but anyway... this is a different kind of Valentine's day story.

It was my sophomore year of high school. I was excited as I had just completed driver's ed. I felt like I was starting to come into my own and felt over all pretty good about myself. I had friends, was involved in a lot of different activities, life really wasn't too bad. And in the dreaded gym we were even playing volleyball, something I wasn't half bad at... but one game changed things a lot.

Let's just say, I like to win and I hate seeing people just stand there and watch the ball drop or even worse running into each other both trying to get the ball. So I was trying to encourage my team to actually call it, by reminding them to "Call it!" Well, one girl on my team didn't like this very much and said something, to which I replied, "well when people start calling it, I will stop saying that".. like I said, I was coming into my own and was pretty sure of myself.

Well I crossed the wrong person. After that this girl decided to make my life as miserable as she could. "Why is she wearing that?" she would say out loud during class. "Oh look what she is doing now." Just constant remarks. My newly emerging self-esteem was quickly taking a tumble. And to be honest I was scared. This girl had some cousins in school, who let's just say didn't run with the best crowd and would be the type of people who would totally jump someone in the parking lot. I didn't know what to do. I tried to avoid her as much as possible. Luckily, I only seemed to see her that one hour a day, but that one hour was awful and it went on for months.

I remember one night, I was up in my room alone, crying and praying about what to do. I felt like I should open my scriptures. I opened up my Bible to Matthew chapter 5 and read verse 44 "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you." That night I prayed for strength to be kind and I am sure also prayed that her heart would somehow be softened and the teasing would stop.

I had recently bought a bunch of little Valentines boxes, the little cheap card kinds that you can fill with candy that I planned on giving to my friends... and I then knew what I had to do.

It was time for class, we were now in the health portion of gym, so in a class room setting. I came into the classroom with my bag of valentines. I handed a few to my friends then walked over to this girls desk, placed one on her desk said "Happy Valentines Day" and walked away. I am sure my heart was racing a million miles and I dare not look her direction.

After that the teasing stopped. No, we did not become best friends-come on this isn't an after school special-in fact I don't think we ever spoke again.. but the teasing stopped.

A little box of Valentines day candy changed my life, at least my life at the time.

18 comments:

  1. I love how you can just open the scriptures and read that page and get an answer. Definitely a great v-day story.

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  2. Great story! It's amazing how something so simple can make a big difference!

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  3. Wow, that is really cool. I when people are rude to me I try to 'kill them with kindness' It usually works.

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  4. I have never been able to open the scriptures and find an answer like that. I think that is so cool. Not to mention the amount of faith that would have taken as a teenager.

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  5. Way better than a love story. That took guts! Wonderful how actions will always speak louder than words. I was the girl who would watch the ball roll or pray that it would never come to me...

    (And 150 followers! So rad.)

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  6. Stopped by from FF. Have a great weekend!

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  7. Way to go! I am proud of your younger self for doing the right thing!

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  8. What an awesome story. The "after school special" comment made me laugh...but that is awesome you followed that prompting to give her that box of candy. "Kill them with kindness" as they say. :)

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  9. Great story! Way to find guidance through the WORD; the girl must have been flabbergasted!!!!

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  10. Sometimes being nice is just simply the way to go!

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  11. I was teased unmercifully as a child, if I only had had the faith that you did. I wish my story had the ending that yours did, unfortunately I continued to be teased, but then I never tried to be nice, I just tried to ignore them. Kids could learn from your experience.

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  12. That was such a great story! What a very smart and grown-up thing you did! I may have to use this as a lesson to teach my kids some day! Thanks for sharing!

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  13. What a great story. Isn't it funny looking back how something so simple as being teased by one girl for one class seemed like a life-ender at the time? You definitely handled it just right :)

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  14. Following from the Friday Follow! Hope to see you at http://luvsjurn3.blogspot.com soon!

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  15. Way to go, Em! Not sure I would have had the guts at that age.... Cool pic, too!

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  16. Sometimes that is all it takes.

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  17. What a great experience. And what a wonderful lesson and example you have to share with your children now!

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  18. Emmy...Wow! Thanks for the great post... Now I'm worried that you will collect all your stories you write into a book...well anyway, you should!

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