I do remember I called my mom but I can't remember if I stayed or not. While my mind vividly remembers the fear, I don't remember the resolution.
I did get more brave after that and had many fun sleepovers over the years.
Now today as a parent we have a rule, no sleepovers.
The trouble is the world is a different place now. Yes, most people are good kind people, but sadly there are those who are not. Not only is there the possibility of an assault but with the Internet and technology the things that can be easily viewed in a home is vastly different. The things some families find okay, violent video games, R rated movies, vulgar language; are things we do not find okay.
Now, I will admit, if I knew a family really well and knew their values and beliefs I would probably be okay with a sleepover, but how do you say yes to one family but no to an other? Besides, how much do you ever really know a family? What if an older sibling has a friend over that causes problems? What if one of the friends causes problems? At first you my be vigilant about checking to make sure everything will be monitored, that all in the home are safe, but how quickly would you slip into complacency and not be so vigilant? Also statistics don't lie and most kids or people that are assaulted are assaulted by someone they know.
Alex has already been asked by a friend to have a sleepover, but she knows our rules (only sleepovers with certain cousins) and so told her friend she could not. As they get older, I am more than willing to let them stay at a friends house late, but I will always come pick them up. If the parents know I will be picking up my child that night, then I think something like what recently happened in Minnesota where the father drugged a 10-year-old girl , by slipping things into her pop so he could molest her in the night, would be way less likely to happen; as they knew I would be there soon to get my child.
This might be seem rigid or extreme, but when it comes to my kids safety there are certain things that just do not seem worth the risk.
What are your thoughts about sleepovers?
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