Actually you will probably learn pretty early on, even when your baby is learning to walk. Want to stop them from ever falling, ever getting hurt.. then they will never learn to walk.
You do your best to protect them from the unnecessary pain by telling them things, 'don't ever touch the stove' and 'never cross the street alone'.
But you know, some day even those things will be allowed, only when they are old enough to do it wisely and correctly (at least you hope).
Some things you can never fix; the kids that tease, the times they fail or just can't get something right.
That is when parenting is really hard. Your heart breaks and bleeds and cries for them, but sometimes all you can do is let them know you are there for them, love them, and try to give them guidance which you hope doesn't go in one ear and out the other.
The other day we went swimming with a big group of friends. The kids were having a great time, going down the slide, jumping from the waterfall.... but soon Lucas began bugging his siblings. I saw the look on his face, I could see it in his eyes...I knew there was more to it than just being a pesty older brother. Of course, I talked with him and told him to stop, but deep down I knew it was something more.
The group of boys his age all swimming together, they are all nice to him he just isn't quite part of their group. They all grew up together, they play sports together, their families go camping together; so even fours years later he is still a bit of 'the new kid'.
I asked him about it after, he said no it didn't matter he just likes swimming alone. But I knew that was a partial lie, his actions had shown it earlier.
And my heart broke a little.
I can't force him to be friends with those boys and I certainly can't make them be friends with him. They truly are good kids and I don't think they even realize they are leaving him out.
But I just have to sit back, let him know I am there for him, love him and try and give him guidance and hope it doesn't go in one ear and out the other.
Parenting is hard.